Sibling rivalry and arguing kids
can ruin your quality of life as a parent. I'm going to share one simple Positive Discipline strategy to set you free. As a parent, you're not a judge or a cop. Your job is NOT to determine who is "right." The vast majority of the time, it doesn't matter who is right and even if it does, it's not your job to prove innocence or guilt in your kids. Or to impose sanctions or punishments based on your verdict. Unless you want your home to feel like a prison or a courtroom. This approach will drive you batty, and cause your kids to fight even more. And sadly, may damage their relationships beyond repair. Remember this simple phrase: Finding out who's RIGHT = More FIGHT Period. Your job as a parent is to ensure your children have a lifelong foundation of positive sibling relationships, and that they eventually learn how to fight fair and work out their conflicts. Your kids need each other. Forever and ever. And they will fight like cats and dogs. It's one of the best ways they learn. Accept that your kids will fight and that it's not your job to fix it. So... What DO you do then? Put them in the same boat. Read more about this tool here and here. You can start using this tool when your kids are babies, and all through the teen years. One of the families in my coaching practice tried out this tool recently and here's what they had to say: "putting the kids in the same boat has been working INCREDIBLY." She also focused on solutions, which includes having her eldest check in with and help the younger one after any upset. And bingo! Read these articles about Putting Your Kids in the Same Boat here and here. If you need support implementing this tool (it's not an easy one), schedule your 1 hour coaching session to get your plan in place. Your kids are always going to argue (it's how they learn), but you can put an end to debilitating sibling rivalry - and fighting that drives you crazy- once and for all. You got this. All the best, Megan p.s. Want to try out a transformative, results-driven coaching session? For this community + for a limited time only, schedule your 1-hour session in the Calm and Confident Parent Program for $99. Check out more about the program and parents' results here. Schedule your session here.
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Mama Megan
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family! Archives
May 2021
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