Children are in their own world most of the time. And they should be. Their job is to play, learn, and explore. It's an adult agenda to... get places on time, brush teeth, take turn with toys, and clean up. Children can "be" most of the time. Parents need to get stuff done. While we may recognize that children have different responsibilities than us, it can still drive us crazy when we are talking about something important, something that needs to happen, like NOW, and there is no response from our children. Here's one little tool that is really working for me and my son, to transform those moments when _____ needs to happen and my son is in his own world. "Can I get a yes mom!" Here's how to use it. You've said something important. No response from your little one. In coach-cheerleader style, say in an upbeat or silly voice, "Can I get a yes mom/dad!" Your child will either repeat, "Yes mom/dad" back to you. Or they will look at you like, "huh?" Then you'll know they really didn't hear you. Then you can repeat what needs to happen as simply and positively as possibly and follow it with, "Can I get a yes mom!" Keep your cool. Engage your coach self to transform potentially stressful moments. And get what needs to be done in life done with cooperation and respect.
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Mama Megan
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family! Archives
May 2021
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