When I was a kid, I loved to play limbo. My sister could limbo on roller skates. Parenting is like that some days. Limbo-ing on roller skates. Sometimes you gotta lower the bar and roll on through. A Positive PlayTime mom reminded me of The power of lowering your expectations. She said it was often easier when she didn't necessarily expect her children to behave, listen, or cooperate. Lowering your expectations can be a really smart brain-wise tool. While Positive Intent is essential in parenting, attachment to the way we think things should be, usually sets us back. And results in our children's tantrums, tears, or power struggles. So ease up, my friends. Know you & your children are good people. But stress way less about the way you think they should be acting or life should be going. My #1 way to lower your expectations... Think of what you need to do. Your to-do-list. And with wild abandon throw everything off that list that is not essential. Or even take 1,2,or 3 things of your list. Freedom. How to judge what is essential? Think basic needs. Everything that's not related to basic needs, cross it off, and let it go. Lower your expectations, just like lowering that limbo bar. Hop on your roller skates, and glide on by. Lowering your expectations is power. Have a wonderful week, Megan p.s. Looking for more tools to Unlock Your Parenting Power? Join The Parenting for the Next Generation Online Class + Community beginning May 9th. Register here.
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Mama Megan
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family! Archives
May 2021
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