We all lose it. No such thing, as a perfect parent. Feel better? Parenting is hard work yet there's this shame to messing up like no one does it truth is happens on most days in most homes we mess up we lose it with our kids yet we hide it from each other awareness is key to positive change so when you lose it with your children you mess up as a parent try this 1-2-3 perspective shift to find your inner rainbow Check the pattern. When do you tend to lose it? morning? bedtime? dinnertime? when you're tired or hungry? when your child cries or talks back? Notice the pattern, gently and without judgement. Your trigger is your unmet need. Behind your trigger as a parent, the pattern of you losing it there's ________ your unmet need what you need that you're not currently getting Like a puzzle can you figure out what it is? Do you need: more sleep or support? more time to yourself? to bring closure on a memory from your own childhood? or maybe a little more respect from your little one? Get clear on what you need even it seems huge and out of reach Now get specific. Do you deprive yourself of what you need? Say it ain't possible? Feel too exhausted to take care of you? Open up to that rainbow in the storm little bit of sunshine something small you can do for you To meet your need before you lose it change your moment Looking for some ideas? One mom of three sets the timer for 10 minutes 10 minutes all to herself she gives herself that gift Or you could get psyched up for a calm bedtime by giving yourself a walk around the house a song you love some jumping jacks before the marathon of the day comes to an ends and bedtime begins Look for little moments just for you to goldmine throughout your day to reconnect you with you We lose it as parents when our needs aren't met. Be open to what you need Get specific Make it happen Baby steps to your rainbow in the storm. You got this, Megan p.s. Did you enjoy this post? Do you connect to my way of supporting parents? Two options to join my community this Fall --and the positive parenting movement: Join the Parenting for the Next Generation Project: Begins November 4th, 2015 Just $47 (until 10/21) For positive change to last a lifetime. For more information and to register, click here. Welcome to the community, and the movement! Join the Calm and Confident Parenting Program: Individual support & empowerment for your family Create and sustain new patterns in your home. More peace. More fun. More respect. More cooperation. Everyday. Visit the Calm and Confident Parent Program for more information, and to schedule your complementary exploratory session. p.s.s. You got this. Promise.
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Mama Megan
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family! Archives
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