If you're struggling to stay calm & in your place of power when your children are upset, please remember: most of us are. You're certainly not alone. 80 to 90% of parents today are struggling to deal with our children's high emotions. (I know I certainly am, and I teach this stuff.) This is the some of the most important work we're doing together over @ You Got This. The first and the very best thing you can do AS SOON AS you notice that your child is upset - even if you aren't feeling triggered yet - is to take space from your little person. Why? So you don't get swirled into your children's high emotions. By taking space, you create a boundary so your children can have their emotional experience -- and you don't take it personal or get all reactive. In our community, we provide you with the support + tools so you are neutral, confident, strong in the love, and proactive- not reactive when working with your children's high emotions. Taking space and creating a loving + respectful boundary is the hardest part of working with high emotions in your children. But you can totally teach yourself. And once you learn how to create a positive boundary --- the next steps are easy-peasy. Here's some ideas to help you take space and create a positive boundary with your children. {Remember to use your best judgement and follow your intuition when using any positive parenting tool.} Most parents need step into another room, or open the door/window for fresh air, to create this space between you and your children. You know what is safe for your family, depending on the ages of your children. I try my very best to step into another room right away, if I I'm tired or stressed. And if I don't step into another room, when I'm tired or stressed, it's 99% guaranteed that I'll end up yelling. Taking space is that powerful. If my basic needs are met, and I'm not tired or stressed, I can stay in the same room and use a visualization with my favorite color to help me out. I visualize a gold wall between my son and I. Or I picture myself in a gold bubble. If I feel emotionally centered with the gold boundary, then and only then do I interact with him. This week, practice the first step of Staying Calm 101: By:
* Stepping into another room, * opening a window or door for fresh air, * or using the power of visualization. Or develop a tool to take space that works best for you. Questions? Let me know. I'm here to help empower you emotionally, so you can empower your children. Join the convo this week over @ the Parenting for the Next Generation community to help you work with high emotions in your family. Catch the livestream this week about working high emotions in your children. You Got This. Promise. All the best, Megan p.s. Enrollment is still open over @ You Got This. Because for real: with 24/7 support and access to all the tools you'll ever need, You truly GOT THIS. Founding membership is just $29-- and includes individualized support and coaching to build our database of positive parenting tools. What?! Don't miss out on this opportunity to join as a founding member-- membership will be $99/ month after this first year.
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Mama Megan
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family! Archives
May 2021
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